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Information for parents

BCWA offers a range of services for children and young people affected by abuse and violence. We also support adults experiencing abuse; please read on to see how we can support you and your child.

Support for children affected by domestic abuse in the home

1 in 7 children will at some point live with domestic abuse. Its not uncommon and isn’t something they

should be ashamed of. The effects can be long lasting, and children can be reluctant to talk about it, especially if they think it might upset people. It may not be obvious they are struggling.

Black Country Women’s Aid offers the Our Future project across Sandwell, Dudley, Walsall and Wolverhampton. Our support gives children and young people a safe space to talk if they want to, and to sort out the thoughts and feelings they may be having. This helps them move forward in a healthy way.

We don’t question children about the past: Some parents worry we may ask children lots of upsetting questions about things that have gone on in the past. Our support is child led, so we talk about what the child wants to, and are led by their wishes.

We don’t talk about inappropriate things: We tackle all issues in an age-appropriate way. For example, in healthy relationship work in primary school, we talk about safe and unsafe secrets with friends at school as a way of having the conversation about boundaries.

We care about your child’s wellbeing: Some parents worry that if they allow us to support their child Children’s Services will get involved. In reality, the more support a child has, the less likely they will be concerned.

Can we help?

If you think we can help your child then please let their teacher know so that they can refer them. We work closely with schools and can offer support appointments for your child at school. If you are unsure, and want a chat or some more information, please just get in touch with us. We can provide more details, and talk about whether our service is right for your child. Call us on 0121 553 0090 and ask for our children’s team.

Support for children and young people affected by sexual abuse

Our specialist children’s independent sexual violence advisers support children and young people aged 5-18 who have been affected by sexual abuse and sexual violence. We provide a safe space for your child to talk about their feelings, process their emotions and move forward. We can also work with you as a parent to help you support your child, as well as offer you someone to talk to about your own feelings and the impact on the family. We can support with police reports, in court, and with children’s services. We will explain your options and give you and your child information to help you make choices. We also offer specialist counselling for both adults and children, and a dedicated support group for parents. Please contact isva@blackcountrywomensaid.co.uk or call 0121 553 0090 for more information.

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Is it happening to you?

If you have experienced domestic abuse, stalking or sexual violence, we are here to support you too. Please visit our pages on our domestic abuse, sexual violence and stalking services for more information.  Please contact us if you need help or want to talk more about our services.

Self-care for children

Supporting children’s emotional well-being starts with paying attention to their feelings and noticing how they manage them.

By acknowledging your child’s emotional responses and providing guidance, you can help them to recognise triggers. This in turn will allow them to understand and accept feelings, and to also develop effective strategies for managing them.

Helping children manage anxiety

If I feel sad or worried I can…

  • Count to ten
  • Think of my favourite place
  • Look at or read a book
  • Do some colouring
  • Draw a picture of how I feel
  • Talk to an adult I trust or call Childline

Grounding exercise

To calm down, I can name

  • 5 things I can see
  • 4 things I can touch
  • 3 things I can hear
  • 2 things I can smell
  • 1 thing I can taste
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Where we work

Our Children and Young People’s Services cover Sandwell, Dudley, Walsall and Wolverhampton.

Please click below for contact details and information in your area.

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How can we help your child

Parental Consent

Our Future Service Information

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